The Chase

So I’m come to the realisation that dating is too hard. There are too many rules, and too many things that you have to think about, and that’s all before you even have the first date! Getting the number has turned out to be the easiest part of dating! Once you get those digits, thats when things start getting complicated.


You have to wait three days after the exchange of numbers to call. But no one actually calls anymore so it’s all done by text or facebook or whatsapp or any one of the hundred different types of social medias. But emotion and infliction is very difficult to convey through words and emojis. So your cute and witty conversation starter can just comes across as weird and a little desperate.


After the first message you have to wait at least 2-3 hours before responding, otherwise your ‘too available’ and a little desperate. But you can’t wait too long, otherwise you’re not interested. You need to wait at least 1-2 hours for every message after that. Then they are doing the exact same thing, so it basically turns a 2 minute conversation into a 3 day event!


You have to find this balance of ‘I-have-such-an-exciting-and-busy-life-that-I-can’t-respond-to-your-message-straight-away’ and ‘I’m-standing-by-the-phone-waiting-for-your-text’ which is not easy. Let’s be honest here, we live in a time where every single person has their smart phones glued to their hands. So there’s an extremely high chance that they did get your message almost instantaneously. But they are now waiting for that 2 minute window in the day in which a response is acceptable.


So I have decided I’m going to try something new. Complete honesty. I just heard a collective gasp from everyone reading this “What do you mean honesty?! In dating?! That can’t be done?!” We’ll see if it can because playing games is too hard.


It will either work, or I will end up with cats. Lots and lots of cats.


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  1. I’m liking your blog already, I know you’ve been blogging a while but only since you’ve created a FB page for it, have I started to read it more fluently. Ties nicely in within the technological context of this piece. This year I didn’t decided the same. What I learnt is that it leaves you vulnerable, but it also makes you feel a live living that way too. I think we’ll always get hurt playing the game, either us as the player or played – but think no game is the only one that can find “that one”, and the relationship that’s true in nature and our self

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